What is the importance of a BDSM contract?
Much less than people thing. Unfortunately 50 Shades of Grey has lead many people to believe that a BDSM contract is binding in some way. Its not. You can have a contract saying you agree to anal sex. You are perfectly entitled at any time to say, No, I dont want anal sex and if he goes ahead, hes raping you, regardless of whats in the contract. Realistically, a BDSM contract is a series of expectations. Its the sub agreeing to be the submissive, to give control to the Dom, and the Dom agreeing to use that power wisely and not abusively. A good contract should not be written in absolutes. Because life happens. Promising to always be naked on his doorstep at 6pm on Friday night sounds great, until there is a blizzard and you cant make it. Have you broken the contract? Or did life happen? A BDSM contract is like marriage vows. You may have promised In sickness and in health but you cant have the other person arrested if he doesnt get you an asprin when you have a headache.